Montana, USA — As a straight man, the culture of masturbation has always been looked down upon. At best, the mere mention of it can make one a laughing stock. At worst, choosing self-love can come with implications on sexual preference, emotional strength, and even mental purity.

We can blame society and media ’til the cows come home but, the reality is, most of the negative connotations of self pleasure come from religious puritanical notions.

While I can respect the concepts, and the value in it, I have been at odds with religion for quite some time. I completed my Communion and Confirmation in a Catholic Church. Aside from it being quite boring, it was all performative at best. However, I want to nip it in the bud. I am not outright ANTI religion.

If religion helped you out a dark place, or if you and your church volunteer your time and resources to help the needy, and it keeps you on an honorable path, then, I think that’s great. I agree with most of the basic tenants of religion, too. I believe there is a ‘god’ like power that exists in our universe that, no human is more powerful than. I believe in choosing honor and being kind to everyone, in choosing forgiveness and compassion whenever possible. I can even get behind the benefits of community and congregation. Where they tend to lose me is when they start trying to one-up each other.

I think it’s irrelevant whether there is ‘one true god’ or many gods, or if Jesus was a manifestation of ‘God’ or not. When it comes down to morality, none of that really matters. You either choose to be a good person, or not. I’m not interested in who thinks they know how to explain the unexplainable best.

As an American, I also take offense to the idea of religious superiority, when one of the first acts on this continent was to wipe out an entire civilization ‘in the name of god.’

This is an entirely separate conversation. One that I may have to have on a different platform to do into the depths that I am prepared to. However, if you follow my here, it’s because you are likely interested in sensuality and sex. So, let me get to the point of this expression.

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“Do you ever just zone out for a moment with someone because “Goddamn you clearly don’t touch your own pussy enough and it shows”” - @an enchantress on Substack

It’s relevant to me in a religious sense. The conversation I imagined having was with someone struggling but trying to hold on to religion.

Women have been conditioned to believe that their urges are “sinful,” we all know but, more importantly, in religion they are taught that they have no control over these urges. They must give themselves away to be free from those urges. That they can never overcome them, alone. “God,” or a man, must save them, often by shaming them into obedience.

When the whole time, that pressure that builds can be released with self love. By teaching women to be ashamed of their bodies, and touching themselves, creates a paradox that makes them feel helpless.

On one hand, these urges make them sinful so, they are already wrong. However indulging themselves, releasing that pressure, is also sinful. They are caught in a loop of shame about their bodies and pleasure, therefore “God,” or a man, must fix them.

When in reality, the woman’s urges are the most powerful force on the planet, and in managing that power, releasing it from time to time, makes her powerful. When she touches herself, she reclaims that power. All of that anxiety, and “ferality,” becomes less of a stressor and can be attuned to her benefit.

She is no longer “hysterical.” She becomes in control. That is what religion fears the most. If it’s a business, it feeds on people who believe that they “can’t,” and need someone to do it for them. A woman who can do it herself, can’t be controlled.

Replying to a Note by @an enchantress on Substack

So, go ahead, darling. Please. Take care of yourself.

Sincerely,
Beau Holliday

P.S. This is what I’m hoping to accomplish with my work. I cannot claim to be an expert of psychology, or sexuality, in an academic sense but, I know my body, and have an undying fascination with yours.

By speaking on the serious nature of sex and sensuality, I hope to provide a safe space for you to explore yourself in a meaningful way. I want you to know that my desires go well beyond my own pursuits of pleasure. It brings me great satisfaction to help you achieve your own peace, and to know your own power. More often than not, women who feel this way are more than willing to reward my efforts. Even without it, though, I am more than satisfied with bringing such pleasure to women I may never even meet.

I hope that you experience a sentiment of safety and care when you read, and interact, with me. If you do, I hope I can enhance your experience even further with my creative writing experiences. When I explore my own fantasies, I often find that there are women who share them, and by discovering myself in these stories, you might also discover something about yourself.

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Read about sensuality and sex from an academic approach with Sincerely, Beau

Indulge your fantasies with me on She Spoke To Me